But, even if you’re not fat, if you’re a woman, you’re probably still so caught up with your toxic weight shit that you can’t even see straight. During my working life I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been part of these ridiculous workplace group diets. Almost all of the participants have been women. Sometimes they even try to bribe one another with money. They all put in ten dollars on the first week and whoever loses the most wins the pool at the end of 4 months, or whatever it is. Look, I’m like you. I’ve done it too. And at a perfectly normal, healthy weight I’ve done it. All because of a sick, shitful, ugly little voice in the back of my head that tells me I ought to be smaller.
And that’s the rub, right there. Exactly why do we want to be smaller? What exactly is the appeal of being smaller? How does it benefit us? Does it make us better mothers? Better students? Better lovers? Better artists? Scientists? Friends? Does it make us more badass badasses?
No, no, no, no, no. You must see that it doesn’t. It doesn’t do anything but make us smaller.
Babies and puppies are small. So are dimes and Skittles. You’re a fucking woman. A woman! You are entitled to occupy as much fucking space as you like with your awesomeness, and you better be suspicious as fuck of anybody who tells you differently.
Why, ladies? Why must we continue to whittle ourselves down? Who is it for? What is it for? You can walk through a certain aisle at the pharmacy or at the grocery store and see the language of diminishment all over the packaging for weight loss aids of all kinds. “Shrink your waist.” “Lose inches off your thighs.” “Slim down.” “Get skinny.”
How about “Grow your mind.” “Increase your confidence and productivity.” “Beef up your knowledge.” “Enlarge your scope of asskicking.”
That’s a valid message for women and girls: grow, expand, branch out, open up, get bigger, wider, faster, stronger, better, smarter. Go up not down. Get strong, not skinny.
You are not here to get smaller. You are not here to have a thin waist and thighs. You are not here to disappear. You’re here to change the world! Change the fucking world, then! Forget about “losing a few pounds.” Think about what you could be gaining instead."
This is exactly what I believe in. Why do we put so much energy into something so meaningless, something which only works to keep us down? Women all over the world are being limited by the diet industry and by perverted body ideals. We limit ourselves by eating too little to function optimally, and by hating our bodies and lowering our self esteem.
We should not allow this to control us anymore.
I don’t love you as if you were the salt-rose, topaz
or arrow of carnations that propagate fire:
I love you as certain dark things are loved,
secretly, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that doesn’t bloom and carries
hidden within itself the light of those flowers,
and thanks to your love, darkly in my body
lives the dense fragrance that rises from the earth.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you simply, without problems or pride:
I love you in this way because I don’t know any other way of loving
but this, in which there is no I or you,
so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand,
so intimate that when I fall asleep it is your eyes that close.
With the final addition of bassist Chris Baio (brought in because he could play Metallica riffs from memory), Vampire Weekend was quick to start recording their first album. Their first show was a Battle of the Bands at Columbia Univeristy where they played songs from their debut including “Oxford Comma” and “Walcott.” They lost, with one judge saying “’Hey, you’re pretty good, but I don’t really like hipsters!”
Vampire Weekend was recorded using keyboardist Rostam Batmanglij’s Macbook and Protools recording software. The album took about an entire year to make, beginning in the band members’ apartments. They even recorded in drummer Christopher Tomson’s parents’ barn. It was a long work in progress, with “a friend’s violin captured in a dorm room here, drum work in a campus studio there.” By the end of the album they were able to record at Tree Fort Studios in Brooklyn. The album’s cover is a Polaroid taken from one of the band’s early shows at a frat house on Columbia University’s campus.
When the album was finished they burned it onto blue CDR’s and sold them at their early shows. The band never sent them to actual record labels, as frontman Ezra Koenig said “That seemed ultimately fruitless. These people don’t want to listen to some random thing they don’t have any context for.” But the band and their album was spread by word of mouth (with lots of help from the internet), and they were eventually able to sign a record deal with XL recordings. The album was officially released on January 29th, 2008.
on tumblr ppl DRAG celebrities and other bloggers for making any joke or comment that could be interpreted as even slightly ignorant even though the majority of these people are speaking from a lack of education about social issues rather than a place of active bigotry or prejudice
like……do you live in the real world?????? do you talk to people??????? i am entirely willing to bet at least 99% of people you will encounter in a typical day regularly say things that are racist/sexist/transphobic/queerphobic and oftentimes it’s because they don’t know the connotations or the seriousness of what they’re saying
you can try to make tumblr this weird alternate universe where no one is EVER allowed to make mistakes EVER and everyone is expected to magically become a graduate student-level expert on queer theory terminology and race politics
or you can continue to make your voice heard in favor of making tumblr a safe place by educating people as much as you can without hostility or condescension
and take that energy you normally spend reblogging fucking “yourfaveisproblematic” and spend it outside your computer in the real world gently educating those around you
because otherwise nothing improves and you just create a dichotomy between your attitudes toward the outside world where everyone is immediately dismissed for being offensive and the tumblr community where everyone is perfect
and that is not only unrealistic it’s also completely naive
you’re not making the world better by nitpicking every single thing said by anyone in the public eye ever if you don’t make yourself a voice in your own community
this is literally going to be the thing that drives me off tumblr because it’s so hard to take the collective voice of this community seriously when they spend equal or greater time making sure no one is allowed to like jennifer lawrence without apologizing for it first as they do spreading information about real issues, news, and resources for making the world a better place
stay on the local news - they only cover rapes and murders!
He’s useless in a hospital!
Milkmaid rollin that body
The Milkmaid (c. 1657-1658), Johannes Vermeer / Ignition, R. Kelly
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